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"Are we going to break up?"
Have you ever wondered why people quit relationships after all
the flushes of attraction. No one wishes his or her relationship to
fail, but then we are all humans. Studying the situation of things is
important in knowing when to quit a relationship and walk away. Yes,
walk away, because not every relationship is meant to exist. But you
can still give it a chance, fight for it, and if things don't change,
walk away. This is were people make a lot of errors, they try to
force a relationship to work, even when the signs are as clear in HD
quality.
This post is for people who are in a relationship that is
beginning to get slightly sour, and are wondering what could snap that
relationship. This symptoms are a few of the early symptoms that could
mean your relationship is nearing a cliff edge.
Hey! Not one or two of these signs is entirely enough to quit!
Relationships can always evolve and get better (if you and your
partner should decide on that) you could still make efforts to get
this 'failure symptoms' out of your relationship. I call this
fighting. But my advice is this, if things don't change, please
declare an emergency and run, before you get run down.
DISTRUST AND SUSPICION:
From my experiences and the experiences of others, trust is the
foundation for any relationship. The moment that trust is gone, watch
you could be in a rat race to trap the wind. Trust is a voice that
assures partners that they wouldn't get burnt even if everything
around them is ablaze. And when trust is lost suspicion sets in. You
believe your partner is out on a with another man or woman while he or
she could actually by stuck in traffic jam. You get suspicious when
he's on the phone. You get to start checking her chat history
(expecting) to see something to confirm your suspicion. Or maybe it
could be your partner who has lost interest in trusting you anymore.
You can talk it out if this is the, it's not going to be easy though,
but youi can just be bold and tell the person that you want to be
open, and tell him or to ask any questions bordering his or her mind.
Don't be surprised by the first question he or she pops.
Still if you notice that such a person still can't trust you
because of past mistakes you made, please draw out your net and go
fishing elsewhere.
DOESN'T WANT TO TAKE BLAMES:
As a normal human being, your ability to take blames shows
responsibility. Don't you dare expect that relationship to work out
fine, if the person at the other end is fond of blaming you for his or
her actions. Its like giving him or her allowance to do anything in
the relationship, take or or leave it when the abuse starts( and it
sure will), the person will also blame you for it. On the same point,
if you have a partner that can never be sorry for wrongs committed no
matter how small, don't worry, there's no need at all to continue,
especially if there is no change after a dialogue with him/her. On the
issue. All that the person will do is argue and argue even with
his/her mistakes staring at her. He or she might even shout and holler
abusively at you for attempting to blame him or her. Most men are
guilty of this. He blames you for his drinking habits. He tells you
that you're the reason he isn't doing well at his job, the day he
gets sacked, he'll come home and pummel you with abuses.
INFIDELITY:
Well this pure common, except you both are in an open relationship
that allows it, but if your partner can't just stick with you. Then
he/she doesn't value you at all. Not only will the person expose the
both of you to what I call extra marital diseases( I mean STDs), the
person will find it difficult to concentrate on your relationship. I
hear people say things like, " I can't give it to him, so I allow him
to get it from other girls". That you don't want to have sex with the
person (for those unmarried) doesn't allow infidelity. Because when
eventually you get married he will not be satisfied with you alone.
Cheating is a horrible fire that sizzles and evaporates trust in an
eye blink. Think of how many marriages tore apart the moment one
partner discovered the other was sleeping aroun.
Finally on this point, if your partner happens to be cheating on
you and you've chosen to just keep shut and swallow it, thinking its
just sex he or she may be giving out. Know this, sex brings people
closer, he or she may also be sharing your secrets and giving them
away for free on the bed of infidelity. I know someone who has
experienced this.
SELFISHNESS
This is a real deal killer. And it ensures you both never agree on
one thing, either because you or the person or even the both of you
can never compromise on your desire. It's all about me, me, me. As you
read this, I want you to do a scan on the number of times your partner
have quarrelled and even fought because the both of you refused to be
rational enough to think deeply on a matter. You just want to hang on
to your selfishness. Even if you are in a relationship with a partner
who is ready to give in, one day that person will snap at you. So if
you are guilty of this, two things: Either you get out of the
relationship now and stop hurting your partner, or better still
change. Learn to be a giver in a relationship.
NO CONNECTION
Has that spark gone? That attraction, that feeling of happiness that
comes when you see your partner. Maybe right now you prefare staying
on the social media all day, rather than enjoy the opportunity of
being with each other. A very common real life example is this,
Charles begins to do over time at his job, not for the money, but so
he can avoid meeting his evening dates with Jane. While Jane suddenly
gets 'so busy' at school. The truth is, that connection is gone and
you are beginning to look for distractions. You want to put some
distance between the both of you. You may not know what you are doing,
you may think you're trying to play mature by running away, but you
may actually be trying to strangle the relationship with your hands.
Put it this way, you are fading the relationship into 'that' distance.
Watch it!
There are other things not covered here, but you could use the
comment box to send in your suggestions and questions, and may be we
can talk more. Have nice day!
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